How to Deal With the Different Emotions that Come With Infertility

Couples going through infertility issues deal with a mix of emotions, and it often feels like there’s no one to talk to about it. Aside from the different emotions popping up all at the same time, these couples also face another equally difficult dilemma—should you open up and share your feelings with others, or are you better off keeping them to yourself?

Let’s take a look at three of the most common emotions felt by couples who have been trying hard to conceive and how to address them.

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Depression

Feeling depressed after multiple unsuccessful attempts at pregnancy is just normal. Depression affects both the mind and body, so it’s important that you detect the early signs. Physical signs include loss of appetite, sleep problems, body pain, and exhaustion. Meanwhile, emotional symptoms of depression include self-hatred, constant sadness, social withdrawal, and pessimism.

If you think you have symptoms of depression, it’s best to talk about your feelings to your partner and health care provider to prevent it from causing more problems to your life and relationships. Look for support groups who will listen and understand what you’re going through.

Lower self-esteem

It’s also normal to be disappointed in yourself and your body after being diagnosed with infertility. Inability to conceive and have children the natural way doesn’t mean you’ll never have a family of your own. Together with your partner, discuss with your doctor the possible medical solutions and alternatives. Today’s medical technological advances help couples start the family of their dreams.

Stress

The societal pressure of building a family can cause a great deal of stress for couples who have been trying to conceive for a long time. Did you know that couples who are relaxed and happy have better chances of a successful pregnancy than stressed couples? Studies support that fact. So start a healthy lifestyle to combat stress—eat healthy, go walking or jogging, and practice meditation.

The importance of getting adequate support to your emotional struggles can never be stressed enough. So share your feelings with your partner, friends, and support group to make life more bearable for you.

4 Fertility Myths: What’s True and What’s Not?

Any couple who have difficulty having a baby have experienced at some point being overwhelmed with information, opinions, and tips they get from the internet, relatives, and friends about getting pregnant. If you face the same situation, how will you distinguish the truth from misconceptions?

Here are some of the common myths about fertility that you should be aware of.

1. More frequent sex means a better chance of pregnancy.

Getting pregnant has to do more with a female’s ovulation rather than the frequency (or even the quality) of sex. Even if you do it more than 10 times daily, you’re not guaranteed of conceiving a baby. Let’s set your expectations right—there’s no difference in pregnancy rates between couples who had sex every day and those who do so less frequently. This fact is backed up by a major study published in the New England Journal of Medicine.

2. Taking guaifenesin before ovulation will improve fertility.

Guaifenesin, better known by the brand Robitussin, is an expectorant that theoretically thins out the cervical mucus, much in the same way as it does to the mucus in the lungs. Some people believe that the thinner the cervical mucus is, the easier for the sperm to swim through the cervix and reach the egg. Although guaifenesin can really help in thinning the mucus, it’s not yet proven if thin mucus is enough to get you pregnant.

3. Cycling lowers sperm count.

Not necessarily. While in theory, the force on the testicular area caused by biking can affect fertility, there’s no clinical study yet that proves the correlation between cycling and decreased sperm count.

4. Having sex with the lights on or during the day can help you conceive faster.

Again, no clinical study has been done yet to prove this claim, though some studies found that sperm count is quite higher in the morning.

Have you heard one or two of these myths before? Do your research and help dispel the misconceptions by telling off people who love sharing those absurd “facts.”